What is mediation?
In short, mediation means intercession, commentation or interposition. It’s essential meaning is dealing with conflicts at the highest level: as the art of conflict solving.
Mediation (commentation) is a special kind of conflict solving method, in which the arguing opposite parties agree to have a neutral third party in the conflict, who helps the negotiation.
In the problem solving procedure the negotiator or mediator supports the parties clearing up about the core of the conflict, cooperates with them to find a solution that is fitting for all.
What is the role of psychology in mediation?
Mediators work to change the attitude of parties in a certain argument. When this attitude has changed, for that moment the opposite parties are ready in souls to agree to solutions they refused to before, or finding new solutions. At this moment they step in the world of coalition in the field of psychology, where the good enough agreements are near.
Mediation with NVC
Experiments show that mediation sessions using NVC are very effective conflict solving procedures. Mediating sessions create possibilities to arrange for long unsolved rational or emotional arguments in a form that fits in everyone’s everyday life.
Mediation sessions are normally two hours long, during this as a mediator I help the procedure with NVC tools. The aim of the procedure is listening to and understanding others, as well as their problems.
After this comes the written agreement between parties, which serves to settle the conflict in practical ways used in their everyday life. The agreement is accepted by all parties, and they agree to undertake it, and implement it in their life.
When is it worth asking for mediation?
In all cases when the parties want to improve the relationship between them and maintain the new orders.